The new female and the new male are partners on a journey of spiritual growth. They want to make the journey. Their love and trust keep them together. Their intuition guides them. They consult with each other. They are friends. They laugh a lot. They are equals. That is what a spiritual partnership is: a partnership between equals for the purpose of spiritual growth. There are no “head games” or ego trips. There are no lies or deceitfulness, there is instead a willingness to expose themselves to each other with complete honesty about who they are and where they are on their paths. There is no drama in their coming together in Union with each other. They are both, physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually available to be in complete Union with each other. They are willing to declare themselves as faithful and committed partners to each other…there is no fear from either one of them in this mutual declaration of devotion and commitment.
I choose to walk in a loving partnership, companionship, and friendship with a loyal, faithful, and completely committed man of Spirit who willingly accepts me unconditionally and openly embraces the growth, challenges, and lessons that our path together will bring each of us, without giving up on me or him. Why do I choose this? Because these are the qualities of character that I bring to the table and have to offer him in return.
I choose to walk in love with a man who can fully accept my Spirituality without needing to hide his own Shadows from himself or from me. Why do I choose this? Because I refuse to hide from my Shadows anymore…often my path of Light comes only after having spent a cycle of learning time in the Dark and I will not apologize for or deny my process.
I choose to walk in love with a man that values my skills and abilities to counsel, advise, listen and help him on his path. Why do I choose this? Because I know that as my equal, as my complement, that he too has these skills and abilities to offer me as I meet challenges on my path.
I choose to walk in love with a man who places me as his friend and confidant above all other friendships and is willing, both privately and publicly, to allow us to be loving, silly and playful with each other. Why do I choose this? Because the “inner circle” is sacred space and it’s up to the two of us to decide whose “outside” counsel is allowed into Our circle.
I choose to walk in love with a man who has the strength and courage to openly tell his life story and share it as an example to others on how to willingly embrace your Shadows and live, in Love, inside of yourself. Why do I choose this? Because one of the greatest legacies that we can leave for future generations are the Wounded Healers of our time that had the courage to voice their stories.
I choose to walk in love with a man who values my creativity and my path as an Artist, my role as a Shaman Medicine Woman, my skills as an organizational Leader, and my bliss as one of Life’s Dancers! Why do I choose this? Because I offer up, to you, my celebration of you as a Man, Artist, Mystic, Leader and Dancer.
I choose to walk in love with a man who is willing to embrace Sacred Sexuality as a path that will help us, together and individually, deepen, enliven, and expand our connection with our Source. Why do I choose this? Because there is no greater energy of healing, creation, and Love than when a man and woman come together as one, as Source.
I choose to walk in love with a man that chooses to join me in the sacred act of mutual, joint meditation and Tantric breathing because he recognizes our abilities to help each other heal, live, laugh and love at higher and newer levels when we share our breath and energy in a mutual space of love, trust, and truthfulness.
I choose to walk in love with a man that refuses to live without self-honesty and is willing to forsake the “power of intention” for the power of behavioral truth, including authentic self-examination for ego, honor, and integrity. Why do I choose this? Because there are times when your intentions don’t matter worth a damn if the walk you’re actively walking is completely out of alignment with that intention. Thoughts do become things and what you think about is where you send your energy but the minute I physically step-up to take action I know that I’ve stopped to check and make sure that my mental, emotional, and spiritual integrity is also in alignment!
I choose to walk in love with a man who values himself enough to not be swayed by questionable morals or someone else’s personal agenda. Why do I choose this? Because I came here as an individual expression of Spirit – no one else has a purpose or path that super-cedes my purpose or my path.
I choose to walk in love with a man who breathes courage with each step and does not allow himself to be dictated to by fear – either his own or another’s. Why do I choose this? Because I choose honesty and empowerment in my life and have these to offer to him in his life.
I choose to walk in love with a man that is willing to talk with me about everything – is not afraid to analyze and seek out the root of issues – and will not run away from the tougher aspects of life together and from the harsher aspects of each of our personalities. Why do I choose this? Because we are here to heal ourselves, with love and acceptance for self and others – runners need not apply!
I choose to walk in love with a man that knows how to acknowledge me, who treats my time and my messages with honor, respect and dignity. A man who values me and what I have to say. Why do I choose this? Because I am always willing to make time and treat requests for communication with acknowledgement. I’m willing to honor your right to be heard and your deservedness of a response because I acknowledge and honor my own right to be heard and my own deservedness of a response.
I choose to walk in love with a man who publicly, privately, personally and professionally acknowledges me and our Union with each other. This man lives his life in open honesty and is not afraid to declare our connection with each other to the world! This man has forsaken the need for other women on a flirtatious level and instead saves his sexual and creative energy for me and for himself, and for the flow of Spirit that moves through me, us, and him. Why do I choose this? Because I am worthy of intimate and sustained commitment. I’m worth choosing above all others and offer my commitment and loyalty in return.
I choose to walk in love with a man who chooses to walk in love with me.
The Man For Me:
He cleans up after himself.
He cleans up the planet.
He is a role model for young men.
He is rigorously honest and fiercely optimistic.
He holds himself accountable.
He knows what he feels.
He knows how to cry and he lets it go.
He knows how to rage without hurting others.
He knows how to fear and how to keep moving.
He seeks self-mastery.
He has let go of childish shame.
He feels guilty when he’s done something wrong.
He is kind to men, kind to women, kind to children.
He teaches others how to be kind.
He says he’s sorry.
He stopped blaming women or his parents or men for his pain years ago.
He stopped letting his defenses ruin his relationships.
He stopped letting his penis run his life.
He has enough self-respect to tell the truth.
He creates intimacy and trust with his actions.
He honors and pays homage to the Goddess in himself and in his woman, and allows his woman to honor the God in him.
He’s not afraid of his anger and is not afraid of the anger in others.
He has men that he trusts and that he turns to for support.
He knows how to roll with it.
He knows how to make it happen.
He is disciplined when he needs to be.
He is flexible when he needs to be.
He knows how to listen from the core of his being.
He’s not afraid to get dirty.
He’s ready to confront his own limitations.
He has high expectations for himself and for those he connects with.
He looks for ways to serve others.
He knows he is an individual.
He knows that we are all one.
He knows he is an animal and a part of nature.
He knows his spirit and his connection to something greater.
He knows that the future generations are watching his actions.
He builds communities where people are respected and valued.
He takes responsibility for himself and is also willing to be his brother’s keeper.
He knows his higher purpose.
He loves with fierceness.
He laughs with abandon, because he gets the joke.
He willingly and often takes time out to play with his loved ones, especially his chosen mate.
This is the Mature Masculine – the New Warrior – a re-definition of masculinity for the 21st century.